Resources for Talking about Children’s Gender Identity
Children have questions and as the big people in their lives it is our duty to do the research to provide them with the answers, tools, ways of responding and also taking care of themselves as they navigate the world. Below we have compiled a few meaningful resources we have found helpful. We have composed a document with the intention of it being updated to include new resources as they come our way. If you have a resource you think would be well suited to be included in this, please email it to us at seedsofbelonging@gmail.com.
Guiding Principles
In general, we base our professional development resources and guidance for teachers and families on the work of early childhood research from organizations like NAEYC. One key book we use is "Anti-Bias Education for Young Children and Ourselves".
Here are some principles from this set of research that may apply whether talking about race, gender identity or other parts of identity a child may be feeling othered or different:
-- Talk to your child about how they are feeling at school. (Specifically, talk about gender, pronouns, same and different and how that's all beautiful)
-- Meet with your child's teacher, in person if possible, and plan to touch base regularly. (Specifically, talk with your child's teacher(s) about gender identity and how this might come up at school. An open door for communication will help you support your child even if things are tricky for teachers or other families)
-- Consider what messages may be sent if things are unsaid. (Specifically in this case, consider sharing accurate pronouns with your child so they can ask you / share with you. If appropriate, talk about bathroom comfort/safety now and in the future)
Additional Specific Guidance:
This is a great resource, by the American Academy of Pediatrics, with a list of organizations and research to explore
Also, this page specifically has guidance for parents/caregivers, and it may be helpful when talking with teachers
